I absolutely adore being a woman. What I DON’T adore is that every idiot seems to believe that my gender gives them the right to comment on my appearance. Everyone has an opinion of how I have to look like to please them.
Thing is, I don’t have to please anyone. I don’t exist to look pretty.
What annoys me even more is that men don’t have to put up with this nonsense. Most of the things we say to women we would never say to a man. It’d be ridiculous and offensive. Yet, it’s perfectly acceptable to say them to a woman!
Well, not anymore. Here are 5 things women hear about the way they look that men don’t, and that we have to just stop saying:
1. Why don’t you smile, love?
Because I don’t feel like it, dude. And, why do you care? Just because I’m a woman, it doesn’t mean I owe you a smile. Or, anything else for that matter.
2. Who are you trying to impressed, dressed like that?
Myself. This may surprise you, but women don’t think about what may get them the most catcalls (which we hate and would rather NOT get, I assure you) when they get dressed. We wear what we like, what makes us feel good, what’s suitable for the occasion, what gives us confidence… You’re not even the last of our thoughts. We don’t think of you at all.
3. Men don’t like it when women wear red lipstick/too much makeup/high-waisted trousers/etc
And I care, cos? Go back to point 2. I dress for myself, not you, so I’ll wear whatever I like whenever I like.
4. That’s not very ladylike
Who said I even want to be a lady? Just because I’m a woman, it doesn’t mean I’m not allowed to have body hair, sit with my legs splayed wide, wear trousers, and do whatever else you think is not ladylike. Because, it’s my life. Your opinion doesn’t matter.
5. You’re past it
I’m not a box of milk. I don’t have an expiration date. I don’t stop being gorgeous, smart, caring, helpful, good at my job, a wonderful mom, a great wife, and all the other gazillion things I am, when I reach a certain age. If you can’t see that, it’s your loss.
What other nonsense are you tired of hearing about your appearance that men don’t?