Beauty Should NOT Hurt

beauty should not hurt

One must suffer to be beautiful.

That’s what every woman is told when she complains about the excruciating pain of waxing her legs, the bunions and corns a day in high heels has left her feet with, or the hunger, dizziness, and nausea she feels when she’s on a too strict diet.

We sighs, wish things were different, and then, the next day there we are again, enduring pain to improve our looks. It’s not like women have much choice. With the exception of makeup and a haircut, pretty much every beauty treatment hurts.

Waxing, threading, diets, peels, botox and derma fillers, plastic surgery, lasers… Every year a new treatment is invented, and, while you can’t be sure of its effectiveness, you can rely on it being painful. Sometimes, even dangerous. We’ve all heard those horror stories about women ending up in hospital with serious waxing injuries, chemical peel burns, or infections from botched botox. Or plastic surgeries gone horribly wrong and diets turned into eating disorders.

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But that doesn’t seem to deter us. We keep spending a lot of money, and time, on anything, however painful and dangerous, that promises to remove our flaws and make us beautiful. Why? Because feeling inadequate, flawed, and worthless hurts a lot more.

We are bombarded, every single day, with millions of images of perfect, flawless, young, and thin women. We know these images are digitally enhanced and manipulated. We know no one, not even the women in those images, look like that in real life.

But they still affect us. They make us wish we had thinner thighs, perter breasts, smoother skin. If we don’t, we feel like we have no business even walking down the street, let alone don a bikini at the beach. We feel like we have a spotlight on us all the time, and are sure that everyone around us is scrutinizing every inch of our bodies, pointing out all our flaws, and wondering why we were allowed to leave the house looking that hideous.

And so we pluck, tweeze, squeeze, peel, diet, and force our feet into shoes that hurt them, all in the hope that, one day, we will finally feel beautiful and worthy of love. But that day never comes. Instead, the standards of beauty keep getting narrower and narrower. Ten years ago, size zero did not exist. Now, it’s not small enough. Hair has become unacceptable anywhere bar the head. A thigh gap is seen as a “must”.

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The media and beauty, diet, and fitness industries keep creating illusions, promoting standards of beauty impossible to achieve in order to make millions. They need to convince women they aren’t pretty enough and destroy their self-esteem so that then they can generously offer them the solutions (which rarely, if ever work) to their problems. Problems those industries have created. In women’s heads.

I don’t want to shame anyone who tried any of these treatments in the pursuit of beauty. I did too. I still tweeze my eyebrows and wear high heels from time to time. But I think it is important to recognize what we are suffering for. If we endure the pain to achieve the happiness and love that we are told only beauty can bring us, then we are setting ourself up for failure and a life of misery.

We need to redefined our definition of beauty. True beauty is not about thin thighs and luscious hair. And it certainly is never painful. True beauty is fun, happy, positive. It is in your soul, and comes from within. It’s about who you are as a human being. Your values and your personality. It’s about love. It’s embracing yourself for who you are and striving to be the best person you can be. True beauty is imperfect, but never flawed.

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There are a lot of ways to learn to embrace true beauty and inspire others to do the same. Here are a few:

  • Refuse to engage in “fat talk” and body shame. Speaking negatively about our own bodies is not just common. It is expected. It’s how women bond these days. But the price is too high. When you say nasty things about your body, you negatively affect your own confidence and negatively impact those around you. So, stop. Refuse to say anything bad aloud and ask your friends to do the same. Soon, those negative voices in your heads won’t be so loud anymore.
  • Be kind. Instead of putting yourself and others down, be positive. Complement the women in your life for their talents, accomplishments, and character traits, like honesty and kindness. Those are the things that really matter, that makes us feel appreciated as human beings, and that encourage us to be the best people we can be.
  • Put yourself in his shoes. Have you noticed that men are never told they have to suffer in the name of beauty? And they don’t worry about every little “imperfection”, like women do. Although the beauty, diet, and fitness industries are starting to target them too, men are a lot less likely to try drastic diets, laxatives, and waxing, especially in their nether regions. So, next time you are thinking of trying some painful treatment, ask yourself: “would my man do this too?” If not, don’t. Chances are what you are trying to fix is not a real problem, but one created by the beauty industry to make a profit.
  • Ask why. Before you go see a plastic surgeon or decide to embark on another diet, ask yourself why you are doing it. Is it because you are ashamed of yourself and the way you look? If so, don’t do it. Shame has never solved anything. It can sometimes be a powerful motivator, but a very dangerous one. Shame is what prompts us to make bad choices – like taxing laxatives to lose weight or try non FDA approved treatments to get rid of any perceived flaws – that only compromise our health.
  • Go on a media ban. Ignoring the media completely is impossible, but try to stay away from as much of it as you can for a week or two. When you then come back to it, you’ll notice how much more carefree you were on your ban, and be more sensitive to the images and messages the media promotes. You’ll notice how unhealthy, unrealistic, and plasticky those airbrushed images really are, and learn to appreciate your body a lot more.
  • Become an advocate. Once you learn to be critical of the media and its messages, help others do the same. When you hear someone say something negative about her appearance, tell her to stop. Tell your friends why you have stopped buying that magazine or watching that TV shows. Share positive body image articles on social media. Starts discussions about the unrealistic standards of beauty perpetuated by the media on forums. Take every opportunity you can to make people think about these issues.

Beauty shouldn’t hurt. If it does, you’re doing it wrong.

What painful treatments have you tried in the pursuit of beauty?

7 Ways To Practice Daily Body Love

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Body love doesn’t come naturally to too many of us. It didn’t to me. From my early teens to my late ’20s, I hated my body. I couldn’t even catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror, avoided wearing mini skirts and anything that was just a little bit revealing, and whenever anyone looked at me, I believed they thought “how ugly she is”.

For too long, body hate held me back, and robbed me of the confidence I needed to live my life to the full. It took me years, and a lot of hard work, to start to appreciate my body and all it can do. There are still days when I look in the mirror and don’t like what I see, wishing I’d be a bit taller or had bigger eyes. But these days, these negative thoughts occur less and less, and they don’t get me down as much.

That’s because I practice daily body love. There are a lot of ways to do this. Some will work for you better than others, but none are quick fixes. To start loving your body, you need to change your mindset first, and that takes time. But, by practising these tips daily, or at least regularly, your relationship with your body will change for the better.

Here’s what helped me:

1. Stop consuming media that make you feel inadequate

Magazines. TV. Blogs. Social media. Radio. Billboards. The media is all around us. We can’t escape it. But we can chose what to consume and how. I used to be an avid fan of women’s magazines, but it’s been ages since I last read one. They have a few features I like but, mostly, they make me feel inadequate. They’re always telling me I’m too short, too fat, not stylish enough or pretty enough.

So, I ditched them in favour of blogs, such as Gala Darling or Beauty Redefined, that make me feel good about myself and the way I look. It’s so refreshing to be told we don’t have to waste time fitting into a certain narrow Western ideal, and can focus on being the smart, fun, imperfect, and awesome people that we are. It gives such a boost to your self-esteem!

Maybe magazines don’t make you feel bad about yourself. But watching the news makes you scared of travelling alone, making you pass up wonderful work opportunities. Or dealing with Twitter trolls ruins your day. So don’t. If something makes you feel bad and gets you down, you don’t have to consume it.

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2. Don’t hang out with toxic people

Media can be toxic, but so can people. We all have Negative Nellies and Debbie Downers in our lives. Those folks who complain about everything, constantly criticize others, and can’t see the good in anything. They just create unnecessary stress for you, and their comments can seriously erode your self-esteem and confidence. So, if you can, avoid them.

Break contact gradually if you don’t want to upset them, but do it. If you can’t, because they’re family members or colleagues you see almost daily, you can limit your interactions with them to a minimum. Then, when someone starts complaining, ask them how they are thinking of fixing the problem. That usually shuts them up. It that doesn’t work, find an excuse to get away.

Whatever you do, don’t pity them or sympathize with them. That’s just what they want, and by so doing, you’ll encourage them to continue ruining their, and everyone else’s, life. Instead, hang out more with positive people who encourage, inspire, and support you. You’ll become a lot happier, resilient, and motivated to reach your goals.

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3. View food as fuel

We are what we eat, and we eat what we are. If you use food for comfort, you’ll eat way too much (often of the wrong stuff too), only to regret it and loathe yourself afterwards. If you see food as an enemy, you won’t eat enough or deprive yourself of important nutrients your body badly needs to function properly.

Question your relationship with food, and what’s behind it. Are you trying to fill an emotional void? What can you do to fix the problem without using food? Then, get educated about nutrition. Find out what different foods do for your body, and the physical and psychological effects they have. Do they give your body the energy it needs, or do they have the opposite effect? Once you start viewing food as fuel, following a healthy, balanced diet becomes a lot easier.

4. Do The Work

Developed by Byron Katie, The Work is a way of identifying and questioning any negative thought that runs through your mind. You just have to ask yourself these four questions:

1. Is it true?
2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?
3. How do you react when you believe that thought?
4. Who would you be without that thought?

Doing The Work is uncomfortable at first, but it really helps put negative thoughts in perspective, and then they won’t affect you as much. You’ll be free to be the person you would be without that thought, the person that you truly are.

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5. Look at yourself naked in the mirror

I know, I know. This feels so weird and uncomfortable, but it can really help you love your body. How? Rather than look away quickly as you catch a glimpse of your reflection in the mirror, look at your body and say aloud what you love about it. If you struggle to find something nice to say, start by focusing on one body part, and tell it that you love it.

“Dimpled cellulite thighs, I love you!” Even if you don’t believe it, say it anyway, and continue till you do. Then, think about of what that body part does for you. Our legs allow us to walk, run, and jump. Focus on the good, not the “bad” (or what we’ve been conditioned to see as bad). Our bodies are instruments, not ornaments.

6. Use your body in new ways

Try yoga. Take up a new sport. Enrol in a dance class. Go mountain trekking. Learn to climb trees. Find new ways to move and use your body. You’ll be amazing at what it can do.

7. Hang confidence enhancing posters on your walls

A quick search on Etsy turns up hundreds of motivational posters that inspire you while making your house look prettier too. If you’re the artsy type, you can make your own posters. Write something like “You are amazing”, or “Be your beautiful self” in bright bold letters on a canvas, frame it, and hang it on your wall. Or you can write yourself love notes and leave them on your desk, your car, your bedside table. It sounds silly, but this constant exposure helps rewire your brain and help it look and feel about your body differently, in a much more positive light.

Do you practice daily body love? If so, how?

What Do You Love About Yourself?

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We live in a world that constantly tells us we aren’t good enough. We should be thinner, taller, more intelligent, have smoother skin, earn more money… We are constantly encouraged to reach for standards that are impossible to achieve. And all so that companies can sell us stuff that we don’t need.

When we focus on what others (who?) think we should be, we lose sight of our qualities, our strengths, our accomplishments, and the many things that make us special and unique.

So, when you feel a bit down, grab pen and paper and write down all the things you love about yourself. It may be difficult at first, especially if you’re used to putting yourself down. This exercise may feel like boasting and make you cringe.

But I suggest you do it anyway. To feel good about yourself, you must appreciate yourself and realise what an amazing person you are. Your confidence will grow. Your will become happier and you’ll be able to achieve bigger and more amazing things.

To get your juices flowing, here are a few things that are on my list:

My sense of humour
My unquenchable thirst for knowledge
My willingness to challenge myself, change, and evolve
My compassion
My honesty
My willingness to help those in need
My refusal to compromise my values and do what I believe to be wrong
My ability to translate complicated ideas into something easy to understand
My green eyes
My taste in music
My ability to take criticism
The way I spend hours reading
The way I defend and support my loved ones
The way that I recycle
That I can write
I’m a good listener
I’m open-minded
I’m thoughtful

What do you love about yourself?

5 Reasons Why Fitspo Is Unhealthy

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I spend way too much time on Pinterest. It’s a great resource for inspiration about anything. How to decorate your bedroom. What to wear with your new yellow crop sweater. What new haircut you should try next. How to find motivation to stop spending so many hours sitting on the couch watching TV and start being more active.

The latter has a name. Fit inspiration, or Fitspo. Images involving beautiful, super fit women, often accompanied with motivating phrases like “the voice in your head that says you can’t do this is a liar”, and “never give”. They seem innocuous enough, and a great way to inspire people to get healthier.

And some of them are. But too often, rather than a healthy desire to lead a more active life, these images induce body shame and hate, undermine self-esteem, and perpetuate the message that a woman’s value is based only on her looks. Here’s how:

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1. Fitspo promotes impossible to achieve ideals

Just like women’s magazines, Fitspo encourages us to compare ourselves to others, which is never healthy. It is even less so when the ideal you are encouraged to strive for is unachievable. Fitspo promotes only one body type, and the girls who appear in those photos are chosen because theirs conforms to this advertised ideal of beauty and already exercise a lot.

Even then, they are usually very young, undergo fitness and dieting regimes for a few days before the photoshoots, and have their images taken by professional photographers using short-term “peaking” techniques. But only after a makeup artist and stylist have used their skills to hide their flaws (that’s if they get to show their faces at all).

And what can’t be hidden, can be deleted with photoshop. That’s also how their waists are made smaller, their breasts bigger, and every inch of their body altered to make them look fitter and slimmer. But even if these images weren’t digitally altered, no one can achieve someone’s else body type. A short, pear-shaped girl will never become tall and with a tiny waist, no matter how much she exercises or how little she eats.

And that’s ok. Everyone has a different body type, and they are all beautiful. But Fitspo ignores that. Just like it ignores that our bodies have different limitations, and different fat storage systems. Most importantly, it ignores the fact that women are more than their bodies, and that we should be valued for our goodness, intelligence, and achievements, not the way we look.

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2. Fitspo perpetuates fitness myths

Even when we realize we’ll never look like the models and athletes in those photos, we still believe the lie that losing weight is simply a matter of eating less and exercising more. And if that doesn’t work, it’s because we’re weak and lazy. If only we had more willpower, we would achieve our goals. That’s a lie. Weight loss is more complicated than that. Socio-economic factors, stress, bad habits, hormones, and genetics can all affect your weight, and all need to be tackled if you really need to lose some. Eating less and less and exercising more and more will just make you ill.

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3. Fitspo encourages us to exercise for the wrong reasons

Working out is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It improves both your health and your mood. But that’s not what Fitspo usually focuses on. It tells you to work out to “make your supporters proud and your enemies jealous,” implying that a tight arse or a flat tummy, nor your brains or good heart, are desirable characteristics highly valued by your friends and who make your better and worthier than your enemies.

Worse, Fitspo often reduces women to sexy eye candy for leering men. Images rarely show the whole body. Heads and legs are usually cut off, implying that these body parts aren’t really that important. That women’s job is not to think or talk, but just to look sexy. Often, these women don’t even wear gym clothes, but just a bikini, underwear, or nothing. Even when they’re dressed, they are usually pictured in sexy poses that objectify women. The message is clear: we should exercise to be sexually attractive to men, not to be healthy.

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4. Fitspo can trigger eating disorders

Charlotte Hilton Andersen, author of The Great Fitness Experiment, believes that “fitspo may be thinspo in a sports bra.” So do I. Thinspo, or thin inspiration, are pictures of very thin women used as willpower motivation for eating disorders like anorexia. Fitspo is supposed to be healthier. After all, it tells you to exercise and eat healthy, which are very good things. But in moderation. If you exercise too much, and keep going even when your body is too tired, you’re going to seriously injury yourself.

And demonizing food can lead to eating disorders. A diet based on hamburgers, french fries, and cupcakes will make you ill and overweight, but in moderation, they don’t do any harm. But Fitspo makes you think otherwise. It tells that, if you want to be fit, you can’t eat anything tasty and, if you’re still not losing weight, it is because you’re still eating too much. For some people, these messages can trigger eating disorders, such as anorexia and orthorexia.

Lesser known than other eating disorders, orthorexia (the term was coined in 1997) starts with a genuine desire to eat healthy, but sufferers soon become so obsessed with it to the point of worsening the quality of their lives and even putting their health at risk. They may start by becoming vegetarians or vegans (nothing wrong with that), but soon the amount of foods on their blacklists becomes so long that they can’t eat anything that’s not “pure” and that important nutrients are left out of their diets. And that’s never a good thing. Our bodies need all nutrients, including fats and carbs, to function properly.

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5. Fitspo undermines your self-esteem to sell you stuff you don’t need

Have you ever wondered who creates a lot of these images, and why? Sports brands like Nike, gyms, work out DVDs, and anyone else in the fitness industry profits by these images. Images that depict beautiful toned women, often without heads, in alluring poses. At first glance, these shots, and the accompanying slogans, may seem empowering, but in reality they are designed to make you feel bad about yourself. To lower your self esteem and make you feel like you’re not good enough until you look a certain way.

And to achieve that, you’ll have to buy their DVDs, or sneakers, or whatever else they’re trying to sell you. That’s why women’s waists and thighs are getting smaller and smaller every year. The goals must be unachievable because, should you ever become comfortable in your own body and love the way you look, you’ll stop working out so hard and so often. And their profits will collapse.

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Of course not all Fitspo is bad. Some photos can really inspire you to stop spending so much time on your sofa watching TV and start being more active so you can be healthier.

How do you know when fitness motivation is healthy?

When it focuses on health, fun, and a balanced lifestyle rather than looks, sex, and dangerous extremes.

When it makes you feel excited about working out rather than miserable for not looking hot enough.

When the goal is to be healthy, not skinny with muscles.

Only when you take good care of your body, rather than trying to change it, you can truly be healthy and happy.

What do you think of Fitspo?

4 Ways To Stop Emotional Eating

I am an emotional eater. For years, whenever I felt sad, lonely, or anxious (which was very often), I would reach for some chocolate biscuits, a packet of crisps, or a Mars bar. They were my crutch, a way to distract me and ignore what I was feeling inside. For a while, I’d feel much better. But those negative feelings would always come back.

Comfort food wasn’t working. It just made things worse, and was harming my health too. While I’ve been never fat or very overweight, emotional eating caused me to gorge on too much junk food and chomp on too few fruits and vegs, which isn’t good for you. I knew I had to change. It wasn’t easy, and, every now and then, I have a relapse and eat a sweet treat when I am feeling down, but for the most part, I managed to get my emotional eating under control. Here’s how:

1. Identify your triggers

The first step in overcoming emotional eating is to figure out what triggers it. Are you turning to food to numb feelings of sadness, anxiety, loneliness, or shame like I did? Do you eat more when you’re stressed out? Or maybe you indulge in some sweet or salty treats to reward yourself when you’ve accomplished a goal? Or you often find yourself, maybe because of work or an active social life, in situations where food abounds? Or do you eat when you’re bored, just to have something to do? Or is there another reason?

Whenever you feel the urge to eat too much or reach for your favourite comfort food, stop a moment and figure out what’s causing it. To better identify the triggers, keep an emotional eating journal. Write down the mood you’re in when you eat, what you ate, at what time of the day, on what occasion, how you felt while eating, and what you felt afterwards. After a while, you will see a pattern emerge. Once you’ve found the cause, you’ll finally be able to fix it.

2. Experience your feelings – even the bad ones

Tackling your feelings head on, especially when they are negative, is downright scary! That’s why many of us turn to food, so that we can numb the pain rather than experience it. But that doesn’t really help, does it? Our feelings are a window into our soul. Fear, anxiety, loneliness, and other bad feelings help us to understand what is wrong in our life, what we are frustrated and stress about, what we dream about and makes us happy. By ignoring them, you’re just prolonging your unhappiness.

Instead, whenever you feel the urge to emotional eat, try to experience the feeling that’s causing it. Take a deep breath and, remember: although it may feel like your feelings will overwhelm you if you let them flow, they subside relatively quickly when you let them run their course and don’t obsess about or ignore them. It won’t be pleasant, but by staying mindful and experiencing what you’re feeling, you’ll realise that you can tolerate those negative emotions. And then, you’ll be able to fix the issues that are triggering your bad eating habits.

3. Find healthy ways to cope

Learning to manage your emotions takes time, especially if you’re used, before you even realize it, to reach for a slice of cake or a box of cookies whenever you feel bad about something. Breaking the habit is hard and, one of the best ways to do it, is to substitute foods high in fat and/or sugar with a healthier alternative. I’m not just talking of substituting cake with a healthier snack like an apple or yogurt. Whenever you feel the urge to emotional eat, do something else that makes you feel good both in the short and long terms, like playing with a pet, listening to your favourite songs (as long as they’re positive ones), exercising, taking a bath, reading a good book, or talking to a friend.

4. Adopt healthy lifestyle habits

A lot of people are able to lose weight only when everything is going well in their lives. At the first sign of stress or problem, they once again head to the refrigerator. Problem is, life is full of surprises, and a lot of them aren’t nice at all! To keep your weight down and overcome emotional eating, you need to learn how to deal with the curveballs that life throws at you. And that’s a lot easier to do when you’re strong, healthy, and relaxed. That’s why it is important to adopt healthy lifestyle habits that will keep in good physical and emotional shape:

Exercise daily: even going for a short walk with your dog helps. Exercising keeps you fit, releases feel-good endorphins, and reduces stress.

- Take a few minutes a day to relax: I know it sounds selfish to take some time for yourself every day, especially if you’re juggling a job, kids, a husband, and a social life. But you won’t be able to take care of your loved ones and do your job well if you’ve always burnt out and exhausted. Find the time to take at least 20-30 minutes each day to unwind. Meditate, take a long bath, read, or do anything else that relaxes you.

Get your beauty sleep: did you know there is a link between sleep and overeating? When you don’t get enough sleep, your body produces more ghrelin, the hormone that stimulates appetite, and less leptin, the one that tells the brain when you are full. So, the less you sleep, the more food your body craves. Try to get at least 8 hours of sleep at night.

Socialize: Create a positive environment around you that supports health and wellbeing. Surround yourself with positive thoughts and spend time with positive people. They will help you see the positive side of things, put them in perspective, and allow you to relax. They will also be there for you whenever you need help or just someone to talk to.

I hope these tips will help you as much as they’ve helped me. :)

Are you an emotional eater? Do you have any more tips on how to overcome emotional eating?

16 Ways To Cheer Yourself Up When You’re Feeling Down

Everyone has bad days when they feel sad and blue. But wallowing in it does you no good. There are many things you can do to shake off a bad mood and turn that frown upside down. Here are some ideas that will help you lighten up your spirits:

1. Help someone. Do your friend a favour. Help an elderly person cross the street. Volunteer. Helping others always makes you feel better straight away.

2. Write a gratitude list. Jot down on paper all the things you’re grateful for right now. Yes, there are many good things to be happy about in your life, even though it doesn’t feel like it at the moment. Remember the friends who stand by you. Be grateful for your loved ones’ wellbeing. Appreciate a warm and sunny day. Once you start writing, more and more things to be grateful for will pop into your head, making you realise that things aren’t as bad as they seemed.

3. Keep a journal. Whenever something upset you, write it down. Dissect the situation to find out why you feel so bad about it, what went wrong, and how you can fix it. That way, you can get it out of your system. If a journal is not your thing, write a blog post about it. And no, you don’t have to publish it.

4. Indulge in your guilty pleasure. I like to eat chocolate and watch Project Runway. Whatever your is, enjoy it.

5. Listen to music you love. As long as it is positive, cheerful, and inspiring. Turn up the volume. Let the music flow all over you. Dance to it. Sing along.

6. Start a creative project. Learn how to sew and make your own clothes, write a poem, paint a picture or stick rhinestone, little crystals or glitter on your wallet, shoes, or nails. Whatever gets your creative juices flowing.

7. Buy some inspirational art for your walls. Decorate your house and office with original artwork that awes and inspires you. You don’t need to spend a lot of money to do this. There are many inexpensive prints for purchase on etsy. Or you can google some art works and inspiring quotes and print them. Or photocopy them from a book.

8. Tackle your to-do list. This may be the last thing you want to do when you’re feeling sad, but striking at least one item off that list will make you feel productive and improve your mood.

9. Play with a pet. If you don’t have one, play with your friend’s cat or your neighbour’s dog. When they’re jumping around all excited, how can you not feel good?

10. Play with a child. See the world through their eyes. Be amazed at how wonderful even the simplest things can be. You’ll soon realise the world is a much better place than it seems.

11. Watch a Disney movie. Or any movie you loved as a child. Grab some comfort food and let yourself be a kid again.

12. Karaoke with friends. Yes, it’s cheesy, but fun. You don’t have to be a good singer. Just sing your heart out for the heck of it.

13. Meditate. Go to a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed, sit down, and just breathe. Pay attention to nothing else but the air as it enters and exits your body. This will center you, and release both your tension and sadness.

14. Take a walk. Or go for a run. The fresh air will do you good and the exercise will make your body release lots of feel-good endorphins.

15.Smile. Smiles are infectious. When you smile at someone, they will smile back at you. And that makes you even happier.

16. Talk to someone. Tell a friend how you’re feeling and what upset you. It’s not a sign of weakness, but one of strength. A true friend will listen and support you without judging you.

How do you cheer yourself up when you’re feeling down?