Accepting ourselves and the way we look is one of the most difficult things to do, especially in our society. We are so obsessed with beauty and perfection and we constantly have it shoved down our throats that if we don’t achieve the unattainable standards imposed on us today then we’re worthless and we’ll never be happy. And we believe it. We just start hating our bodies and ourselves and this can be really dangerous. It’s high time to stop it.
Real beauty comes from within and having a pretty face may help in life, but if that’s all you got, you’ll never go far. Each and everyone of us is special and unique the way he/she is and we should celebrate that. I know it’s not easy and the road ahead is full of obstacles, tears and pain but learning to love our body is the best thing we can do for ourselves. It’ll give us confidence, improve our self-esteem and truly make us happy. I really hope these tips will help you as much as they’ve helped me.
1. Stop criticizing yourself
Stop seeing your body as an enemy. It isn’t. Our body is a friend and you would never diss a friend, would you? So, why would you diss yourself? Don’t! So what if you have cellulite or your nose is slightly bigger than you’d like it to be? No one’s perfect and never will be so stop criticizing yourself for flaws that are mostly only in your own head and focus on your strong points and qualities instead. And don’t criticize other people either. That’s just as bad and rude. If you hear someone that says anything negative about somebody else’s body, then confront them and tell them to stop it. No one has the right to make others feel bad and unworthy for the way they look. And if anyone tries, speak up! And don’t be afraid to come across as rude, they are the rude ones for making fun of others for their appearance and someone needs to let them know that! We need to support one other, not bring one another down!
2. Focus on your best features
We all have some features we don’t like but focusing on them will just make us feel sad, depressed and miserable. And there’s really no good reason for that because it’s those “flaws” that makes us special and unique. But if you really don’t like something about your body, learn to play it down and emphasize your favourite features instead. Don’t like your lips? Wear nude lipsticks and wear more dramatic and bolder looks on your eyes to attract attention to that area. But most importantly, focus on your inner qualities. If you’re feeling down because of the way you look, take paper and pen and start writing down all your positive qualities. Are you intelligent, funny and generous? Loyal and creative? Write them all down and look at them! Those are the things that make you really and truly beautiful, the reasons why you deserved to be loved and why people around you love you for.
3. People come in all shapes and sizes (and they are all beautiful so throw away that scale)
Who says that we should all be sticky thin to be beautiful? That’s nonsense. Look around you. Just as people have different eye and hair colors, they also have different heights, body types, shapes and sizes and they are all gorgeous! And thank goodness we don’t all look the same. Can you imagine how boring the world would be otherwise? Models and celebs all look the same these days and why would you wanna look just like everyone else when you can be your unique and beautiful you? Your weight doesn’t define who you are, its your inner self that does. So throw away that scale and never let your weight affect your sense esteem. Because it doesn’t matter how you look, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and never let anyone make you think otherwise!
4. Stop reading women magazines
When I was younger I would devour every magazine I could get my hands on and always felt depressed because everyone looked so slim and pretty and toned and I felt so insignificant in comparison. Stop reading them was one of the best things I ever did and not being exposed to so many fake images so often (of course it is impossible to avoid them completely) helped my self-esteem a lot. Remember that those photos you see in magazines just portray an image of beauty that NO ONE can attain in real life. Not even the most beautiful celebs and models look like that in real life. In fact, whenever they shoot photos for a magazine, there is always a team of stylists, hair stylists, makeup artists etc that helps them look their best, they are told which way to pose so that the lights on stage can help disguise certain flaws and even then, all images are airbrushed and digitally enhanced anyway. These images may be a beautiful fantasy, an illusion but they are not real and there is no way that anyone can achieve such unattainable standards of beauty so just stay away from them!
5. Don’t compare yourself to others
We are all guilty of this. If we see someone thin, we wish we were thinner, if we see someone with blonde hair we wish we were blondes, if we see someone tall, we wish we were taller.. Well, you get the drift. And it’s time to stop it. We’re aways gonna find someone that’s taller than us, thinner than us, has bigger lips than us and comparing ourselves to them is just useless and nothing good comes out of it. There is nothing wrong in the way you look, so stop wishing you’d look different and appreciate your own unique features. Actually, I’m sure there are lots of people out there that would love to have your nose, your eyes, your body shape and all the things you despise about yourself. Stop comparing yourself to others and realize how beautiful you are.